Q – Some people just don’t RSVP to our wedding invitation. Is there a magic formula for the best guess of these non-RSVP people that will actually show up?
A – Getting RSVPs back is a BIG problem. Even when providing a pre-addressed and pre-stamped card, where all they have to do is check either “yes” or “no” and drop it in a mailbox, people just aren’t in the habit of giving a proper response.
So, how to figure out the actual number of who is coming? First of all, never guess – you don’t want to give your caterer a head count that ends up too low (and you end up with not enough food and drinks and seating – making you look bad, when it’s not your fault that they didn’t let you know that they were coming) or too high (and ending up with more food and centerpieces and linens than you really need – and having to pay for those extras to boot).
I always recommend that the day after “Please Reply Date” have someone call those who haven’t responded. I’ve even made these calls for brides. It’s a simple “we’re looking forward to celebrating with you. Will you be able to make it?” Get a definite yes or no – no maybes.
Don’t feel bad about calling people who haven’t responded. So much depends on how many people will be there – food, drink, tables, chairs, centerpieces. . . you need an accurate number.
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Hearts, Joy, Love!