Why I Have a Love-Hate Relationship with Wedding “Trends”

small wreath on wooden rustic table
Ugh. My Love-Hate relationship with trends continues.

However, this time it’s not because of any specific practice or trend that is currently showing popularity among engaged couples . . .

. . . but with the seemingly loose usage of the word “Trend.”

Over 60 million couples got married in the U.S. last year alone. With that many people, it only make sense that many will be making similar choices.

However, just because a lot of couples followed a similar practice for their wedding, it’s not always enough to call it a trend.

Sometimes it’s merely choices.

Peonies, garden roses, ranunculus, and dahlias are popular flower selections; Greenery is Pantone’s 2017 color of the year; Mark Ronson/Bruno Mars’ “Uptown Funk” is the top requested song – these choices are trends as there are many options (literally hundreds) that couples could have chosen.

However, other choices are merely the same “are you or aren’t you” choices that have been made for decades. Choices, not trends.

Most recently, two non-trend choices have somehow been deemed as the latest trends. They are:

1. Not inviting children to the wedding


2. Not doing a seating chart for the reception


These practices are not something new. They are not suddenly the “in” thing.

For years, many couples have chosen to not invite children to their wedding.

For years, many couples have chosen not to do a seating chart, opting for open seating instead.

But guess what? Just as many DID invite children, and just as many HAD assigned seating at their reception.

Which makes them choices, not trends. Choices that brides and grooms have been making for years. And they’re just a couple of the gazillion other choices that every couple makes when planning their wedding.

Ok, Thanks for letting me rant. I’ll climb down from my soapbox now.

Hearts, Joy, Love!

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2017 Wedding Trend Predictions

zodiac wheel with red heart for love divination

It’s time to take a look and see what trends we’re going to be seeing at weddings this year.

Rustic/Barn Weddings
Yes, the desire for Rustic/Barn weddings is still going strong. But it’s more than mason jars and wooden slabs.

Couples are going for more sweet and whimsical, and vintage inspired. Sunflowers are a fun choice. We’ll see touches of burlap, lace, and distressed accent tables (for your guest book or wedding cake), and romantic lighting.

rustic wedding reception in a barnPhoto by: Zac Fisher
Venue: Canopy Creek Farm

Softer/Muted Color Schemes
We’re seeing more pastels and neutrals – the wedding gown and bridesmaids dresses, the table linens, and the flowers – in weddings that range from rustic to elegant.

pastel wedding flowers linens decorPhoto by: Weddings From The Heart
Flowers by: Jan Baker
Linens by: Prime Time Party Rental

Non-Traditional Food and Beverage Choices
Food trucks (think gourmet croquettes, homemade pretzel bites, slow roasted pork belly, pizza), and artisanal beers from a local brewery will be big hits.

food truck sliderFood (pork belly slider) by: Harvest Mobile Cuisine

From sunny sunflower to romantic pastels yellow is the “in” color, and will be used in flowers, attire, accents (ex. ribbons, napkins), and other decor.

yellow wedding ceremony decorPhoto by: Childers Photography
Flowers by: Jan Baker

Mettallics are showing up all over, including wedding gowns, bridesmaids dresses, the wedding cake, shoes, and vases. It’s no longer a choice between “gold or silver” but a mix of metallic colors (think warm golds, copper, polished silver, pewter, bronze).

bride's silver wedding shoesPhoto by: Faye Sommer Photography

Dark Gray
We’ll see this elegant color in mens formalwear, bridesmaids dresses, table linens and accents.

wedding gray formal wear

Hearts, Joy, Love!

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Top Wedding Trends (Then and Now)

It’s fun to go back and see what wedding trends were popular a few years ago compared to what is “in” now.

You know what? For the most part, what was trending in 2013 is still popular with couples getting married and planning their own weddings.

Trends that are still going strong are:

      • Vintage themes and décor
      • Blue color palettes


    • Variations on wedding desserts

    All three remain popular choices today.

    Check out our video from 2013.

    Yes, these tips and trends are still relevant in 2016 (and 2017!)

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    Trends – What’s Out (And What This Means For You and Your Wedding)

    Every year we hear about the newest trends and what is up-and-coming for the following wedding season.

    But after a while trends lose their luster as their popularity diminishes.

    Some trends that seem to be losing steam are:

    Chalkboards were a fun and easy way to provide signage at your reception. They have been used in a variety of ways including menus, table numbers, and in lieu of ceremony programs. Recently though, couples are staring to go back to simple cardstock when using signage at their reception.

    “Traditional” Cocktail and Dinner Music
    Light jazz and soft instrumentals used to be de rigeur for the cocktail hour and during dinner.

    These days, couples are choosing a more eclectic playlist to set a fun mood for their guests, such as “Suit and Tie” by Justin Timberlake, “Fever” by Peggy Lee or “California Dreamin’” by the Mamas and the Papas.

    Photo Booths
    Big photo booths with goofy props like feather boas and crazy hats are still fun, but we’re seeing more open-air photo “booths” with props with a more upscale feel (such as bowler hats, mustaches, hearts, and champagne flutes).

    Candy Buffets
    Anything edible is always a bit hit, and candy buffets were a fun way to incorporate the wedding color palette and send guests off with a tasty treat. But, for whatever reason, candy buffets just aren’t used at wedding receptions very often anymore.

    So, what does this mean for your wedding?

    In reality, not much.

    Your wedding vision is determined by you and your fiancé, what you both like (and dislike), and what holds meaning and is representative to you.

    So, unless your style is to follow the current trends, what’s in and what’s out should never be a determining factor for what you choose to have for your wedding.

    A side note though: sometimes it can be easier to find something that follows the current trends. For example, before the chalkboard craze was embraced, finding suitable chalkboards was tricky. You were pretty much stuck with large boards or none at all.

    These days not only can you find them in a variety of shapes and sizes, but there is chalkboard paint so you can tun just about anything into a chalkboard.

    Photo credit: Ruth Hartnup

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    Four Wedding Trends That Should Never Go Away

    Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of wedding articles that say something like “Wedding Trends We Want To Go Away” or “Wedding Trends We Wish They Would Retire.”

    Let’s turn that around to something positive! There are certainly many fabulous wedding trends and practices that we’d love to see for a loooong time.

    These are my 4 top favorites!

    1. Non-Identical Bridesmaid Gowns
      Your ladies have different personalities, and probably aren’t the same size or body type. Making them dress in identical dresses isn’t as common as it used to be.

      Choose a color (or color family) and give your ladies a few “guidelines” to follow, such as not full-length, or no strapless. Or choose a few different styles that coordinate and let your ladies choose which style each would like to wear.

    2. The “First Look”
      Most couples still follow the tradition of the groom not being allowed to see his bride before she walks down the aisle. However, a “First Look” is so special, and gives you both a moment together before the celebration of the day begins.
    3. Unplugged Weddings
      Your friends and family are excited to share your day and want photos to remember the day – I get that. But, if they’re watching through a viewfinder is distracting. They aren’t fully “in the moment.” Being “unplugged” allows your guests to truly “feel” the day, instead of collecting pictures to look at later.
    4. No Wedding Cake
      Ok, I love cake, but I have seen my share of couples who don’t, or just want to serve something different to their guests. Pies, ice cream, candy buffets, donuts . . . The possibilities are endless, so choose your favorite!

      (P.S. – This doesn’t mean I want to do away with wedding cakes. Instead, I want to encourage couples to do what feels right for them!)

    Photo credits: Bridesmaids Dresses – © MNStudio | Fotolia.com
    Wedding Desserts – © Antonio Gravante | Dreamstime.com

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    Hearts, Joy, Love!

    2013 Wedding Planning Trends

    This year we’re seeing different trends in the choices and details made by brides for their wedding – such as color (emerald) or thematic elements (burlap). We’re also seeing a gradual shift not just in these individual details, but in how couples approach their weddings.

    • Couples are including elements with personal meaning to their wedding choices. They are expressing themselves through multi-cultural and/or inter-faith statements in their ceremonies and receptions. Signature colors, monograms and motifs pull the wedding theme together from save-the-dates to the wedding day décor.
    • The Internet and technology continue to play in important role in wedding planning. High tech access is used in vendor selection, gift registries, information sharing, guest information sources and communication with members of the wedding party. Even on the wedding day itself, some couples are having interactive hubs and social media walls during their reception where guests post comments, wishes, and photos they’ve taken at the wedding.
    • The importance of color continues in bridal apparel. While white and ivory remain favorites, designers are including touches of color to wedding gowns, such as Monique Lhuillier, with the use of subtle colors like blush pink and champagne. Romona Keveza has designed a stunning black and peach mermaid style wedding gown. Vera Wang (www.verawang.com) even debuted a line of black wedding gowns in Fall 2012, and red dresses in Spring 2013.
    • The groom’s role during wedding planning continues to grow. From the guest list to the thank you notes, more and more decisions being made jointly by the couple about all aspects of their wedding.

    Brides need to remember that no mention of gifts, even “no gifts please” is ever made on a wedding invitation or with the invitation ensemble. It is acceptable to mention a wedding website on an enclosure card and that website can contain information about gift registry options.

    Looking for fun ideas to make your wedding plans unique? Contact me at 937-235-2586 or at jean@weddingsfromtheheart.net.

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    To Trend or Not To Trend

    Wedding trends come and go, and although I try to keep up on what’s the latest in the wedding world, I’ve never been a fan of trends as a whole. Sure, there are many things I love that happen to be “trends,” but I love them for what they are, NOT because they are trends.

    As a wedding planner in Dayton, Ohio, I’ve seen many different ideas and details and (dare I say it) trends incorporated into my bride and groom’s reception decor. The exciting part is after everything is all set up, the party is in full swing, the bride and groom are having the time of their lives, and you can can tell that the guests are thinking “Oh, that’s so [bride and groom’s names].”

    Recently, there’s been some controversial back-and-forth in a few wedding blogs on this topic. On the surface it seems these particular blog writers are simply anti-wedding blog or anti-mason jars and twinkly lights (a couple items that happen to be “IN” in wedding decor).

    However, read between the lines and you’ll get to the root of what they are saying. The “problem” isn’t so much WHAT (it’s not weddings blogs per se, or mason jars/lights in and of themselves), but WHY (why did the bride and groom choose these particular details).

    Yeah, details ARE important – there’s no doubt about that. It’s the use of details that easily personalizes your wedding and brings to life your own wedding style and vision.

    But when you choose details solely because they look so pretty, or cool, or whatever in that magazine article or blog post, then you run the risk of ending up with nothing more than a meaningless prop instead of something that makes a statement about you and your fiancé. Wouldn’t you prefer your guests to see the details and think “Oh, that’s so them!” instead of “huh?”

    So, it seems to me that the solution to this “problem” is twofold:

    1. The bride and groom, and their love for each other, is more important than the details (don’t lose sight of the reason for the day – the celebration of your love)

    2. Choose details because they fit in with your personal and wedding styles (and not because they fit a preconceived notion of how a wedding “should” look or what you “should” have to be “right”)

    Try to make details meaningful to you – not because they’re trendy but because it’s something you love. To thine own self be true. Be YOU. Do YOU. And if YOU happens to be mason jars and twinkly lights (or whatever the current trend may be) then embrace it. On the other hand, if it’s not, then don’t feel like you have to choose these things.

    And yes, even here in Dayton, Ohio I’ve seen mason jars and twinkle lights and other wedding details that are also considered “trendy,” (you can see some of them here on my wedding gallery). And no, I did not cringe, as each were gorgeous, wonderful representations of the bride and groom.

    By the way, in case you’re interested, check out the blog posts in question, Open Letter to Wedding Bloggers on Hindsight Bride, A Wedding Manifesto of Sorts on Jonas Peterson, and Are Mason Jars Really Ruining the Wedding Industry? on Offbeat Bride.

    Wedding Trends for the 2011-2012 Season

    We’re still seeing lots of deep, bold colors, such as sapphire blue & eggplant, but will be starting to see more neutrals (charcoal gray and taupe)

    and sherbet-y pastels (think pistachio, peach & lemon).

    The glam of metallics is still hot as ever.

    There will still be a lot of pink -from a sweet blush to dramatic raspberry.

    Wedding gowns will feature fun accents – sashes & belts, bolero jackets, colorful beading on the bodice and skirt. We’ll be seeing more sleeves, lace, and illusion necklines.

    Pocket squares instead of boutonnieres

    In 2012 we’ll be seeing more pattern – including paisley, damask, and ikat – in attire and decor.

    More couples will have a photo booth at their reception – either an actual professional booth, or a DIY version.

    Wedding bouquets and centerpieces will include more non-traditional elements, such as feathers, paper flowers, and fruit.